I am extremely empathic. able to tap into the thoughts and emotions of other people… but there are times when i want to turn it off because often times i do it without noticing! and so it makes things for me very difficult because i don’t yet know how to differentiate my thoughts and feelings from other peoples. how can i begin to do this? how can i protect myself? thank you ^.^ namaste.
You don’t really want to turn it off because it’s basically like blocking the heart chakra. When you turn off empathy you can become very bitter, heartless, selfish, it’s just not a good time. Being an empath is as much as a gift as it is a curse but there are ways to learn to control it. It’s much easier to become an observer of your own thought patterns rather than it is to turn off empathy. It takes some practice and more mind-stillness? Where you basically want to learn to become aware of your thoughts and feelings by listening to yourself more. When we listen to ourselves it helps us connect between the subconscious and the consicous minds. We need to understand our ego to see the beauty and truth behind the illusions.
It is very hard sometimes when you are caught up in other people’s personal emotions and can’t figure out what end is you and what is end is them. I’m in a serious relationship with a child and a small house of 5 people so i know exactly what you are talking about, it is not easy. Ways i do find that help is by learning to separate your thoughts from their thoughts. This is pretty easy the more we become consciously aware of it. For instance you’re in a room and all of a sudden you were happy then you feel very upset for some reason and you’re not really sure why, well try to bring your awareness up from and redirect the thought towards thinking something about you. Like “ I love the color of her skirt” or “look at how beautiful the sky is right now” I should note that this doesn’t work if you’re trying to bury your emotions 😉 However just learning that stable awareness of what is you, really helps calm the spirit. I actually used to suffer from panic attacks and anxiety because i didn’t know what was happening to me, i thought i was just having a lot of allergic reactions. It was pretty nuts at the time. Although overtime i realized it was just me feeling the energy tinglingness and absorbing others thoughts and feelings on accident….So it’s all about thought direction and awareness. You need to find a way to focus back on your own thoughts. It’s like you have to see the separation to find the unity. The reason for this is aura reading, do you ever feel like you and friends thoughts connect or are similar,like your on the samee wavelength so you have similar interests and can basically read the others mind? This is all from aura reading and energy reading! therefore you have to find a way to accept the paradox we are separate yet we are connected.
When you brings your own thoughts into awareness by personalization, you are taking control and reclaiming your aura. It takes practice but this will help you. you can also use breath techniques like pranayama but i find that to be sometimes more distracting in a crowd lol. It also helps with bringing your thoughts out of ego like instead of thinking “god that bitch blah blah blah” you can transform those thoughts.
In reality Empathy may seem like a curse to some but it’s truly a beautiful gift to possess. Your energy is connecting with another energy through the feelings of the earth. And you can use this energy to invoke good things instead of bad, instead of feeling hate towards this feel love. Project thoughts of positive, good vibes towards people and it will generate back to you. Sometimes this can also enable us to feel their darker side like i was talking about before, called Crow’s eye. Where you basically feel their “everything”. Sooo in that regard it’s best to stay in a positive thought structure when this happens because it’s so easily to become an emotional rollercoaster in the world of empathy. As we are becoming more in tune with the earth, this is a very important lesson to learn. Empathy is truly the key to happiness, love and compassion
I also wrote similar topics here: http://theawakenedstate.tumblr.com/tagged/empathy
I hope it helps <3