Well for one who is “they” and why do we always need to listen to “they”?
The best teacher will forever be what resonates from within you. One thing that gets me about the New Age community is their need to ignore and dislodge the Ego instead of learning to question it. So many people are spouting “boo hiss the ego is bad, you have to ignore the ego, that person is full of ego, you cannot be spiritual because you have an ego” All of that is wrong, everyone has an ego and we can physically NEVER get rid of it. You can understand Ego death go through a kundalini awakening where your ego goes through a process of transcendence but you inevitably still have an ego. You kinda wouldn’t be able to physically function if you didn’t have one. However we can learn to understand it and learn to observe our thoughts into questioning why we are having these negative thoughts. This is what Eckhart Tolle is actually trying to get at when he says “you are not your thoughts”. you are not your negative or positive thoughts but in the same regard it is your choice of expressing these thoughts every day of your life which starts to make this own topic very convoluted…
It is in our basic nature to have both Negative and positive thoughts otherwise how would we even remotely understand logical reasoning and the ability within our prefrontal cortex to make decisions.
The more we are ignoring and dislodging our Ego the more we are ignoring a part of our self that we need to face. It is actually the Ego that can be more of a teacher than anything because the ego shows us what lives underneath the skin. It reaches in and touches our insecurities, our fears, our traumas, our deepest most hidden thoughts that we need to face. So when you ignore the ego what are you doing? You’re still not accepting full-identity for who you are. Take an example of when you’re angry at someone, most of the time when we’re angry we’re projecting outward to someone about the things we unconsciously don’t like about ourselves because we feel we are out of control. Now when we learn to question WHY we got angry by facing our ego, we begin to see “well maybe this is something i actually need to work on within myself” instead of ignoring the ego and continuing to be ridiculously angry.
It’s great to not have negative thoughts and try to be positive, do not get me wrong but in the same regard if you are not identifying yourself with these thoughts and emotions you are having that are negative, you are negating yourself. It is only human to have these thoughts, even the most crazy woo woo new age person you meet still has negative thoughts even if they seem the nicest person in the world because having an Ego is a very natural part of life. The truth is it isn’t about negative or positive thoughts; it’s about your choice behind the action of how you wish to approach your cognitive understanding of others and yourself.
So to get back to your question if we are not our thoughts, what does it mean for positive thinking? Well it’s about your choice, how do you wish to approach your thoughts, how do you wish to see the world? It all comes back to your choice because you are the one controlling the ship. Eckhart Tolle says “you are not your thoughts” because when we are in observation of our mind, you are the observer OF your thoughts, not the other way around. Whereas someone who isn’t being the observer, lets their thoughts control them, there is a huge difference here. When we let thoughts control us, we easily believe them, we’re not good enough, smart enough, strong enough, etc. but when we become the observer of those thoughts and see through them, you don’t have to believe you’re not good enough but your thoughts are projecting that because you’re upset. So it’s up to Choice, do you let your thoughts control you or do YOU control and observe them? THAT is truthfully what “they” are talking about, it’s never about the thoughts themselves…It’s about the person behind them through their choice of actions and beliefs.
Hope this helps you